This weekend I attended my friend’s college graduation ceremony. It got me to start thinking about graduation and the rituals associated with the end of a learning experience. For some backstory, I’ve never had my own graduation ceremony (I went to college a year early, missing the high school graduation experience), but I’ve attended more than my fair share of other people’s. I’ve beared witness to high school graduations, all my friends’ and ex-girlfriends’ reception of bachelor’s degrees. I even took pictures while my Mom received her Masters in Social Work a few years back. This rite of passage is ubiquitous in the media, our minds, and our culture. Yet, it’s meaning is murky. It became a trend in film to show the graduation ceremony as an explication of generational divide. Achievement was no longer the theme, it became more apt to show the outmoded ideals of college and mainstream culture as personified by the graduation in contrast to the lives and visions of youth. One apt representation of this is in the film Reality Bites, that perfect portrait of Generation X angst. In this first scene, the protagonist delivers a speech as valedictorian railing on the consumerist society that their degrees have supposedly prepared them for. In response to the the possibility of having an answer, she states “I don’t know” to much applause. This counterculture cry of I Don’t Know was the perfect antidote to the notion that once you have a degree you are ready for adulthood/career/family/happiness. For students who find their education a burden or something relegated to indifference, this graduation scene plays out much the same. Especially for those whose education feels compulsory (whether because of law, parents, societal pressure) what is purported to be a heartfelt and triumphant rite of passage is anything but. Another friend told me that she wished she had been stoned during her college graduation. This is echoed in teen comedies, television dramas, and biographical films (like Into the Wild).
For some, this nonchalance is way off the mark. The graduation ceremony I attended this weekend is for a Bachelor’s Completion Program whose participants had all had patchwork and interesting learning careers. It’s a small, extremely New Age-y school and words like honorees (graduates) and tokens (diplomas) were used throughout. At the end of various speeches and performances there was a time period where family and friends could come on stage to honor the graduates. As I watched fathers tear up, children and grandchildren smile into the mic, and best friends profess their devotion, I found myself crying. I’m not much of a crier, it’s a pretty rare occurrence, but here were all these different supportive networks so proud of the students’ educational achievements. I felt myself longing for a ceremony like this and realizing how important ceremony is for this kind of experience. While the emotions may be mixed, it seems so necessary to create the space to celebrate and honor the learning that we go through. It’s not really about the pomp and circumstance, though that sounds nice too….
On a lighter note: there is an unfortunate dearth of graduation related videos on youtube. Sadly, this is all I could find.